Look for 5 green flags when dating, says psychologist: 'Almost anyone' can seem like the 'perfect partner' in the first month

March 18, 2026 - 19:53

While the initial weeks of a new relationship can be filled with excitement and idealization, an expert cautions that this "honeymoon phase" can be misleading. Clinical psychologist Sabrina Romanoff notes, "Almost anyone can put up that facade of being the perfect partner for the first month of dating." The true foundation for a lasting connection, she advises, is built on observing consistent, positive behaviors known as green flags.

Dr. Romanoff identifies five critical green flags to seek beyond the first impression. First is consistent and respectful communication, where conversations feel balanced and promises are kept. Second is accountability, demonstrated by a partner who can sincerely apologize and take ownership of their mistakes. Third is respect for your boundaries, showing they value your comfort and autonomy without pushback.

The fourth green flag is emotional validation, where your partner makes a genuine effort to understand your feelings without dismissal or immediate problem-solving. Finally, observe how they integrate you into their existing life. A willingness to introduce you to friends and family and include you in their routine often signals serious intentions and a desire for a shared future. These markers, developed over time, are stronger indicators of a healthy partnership than the intense, but sometimes superficial, charm of the earliest dates.